Have you ever lost a loved one or something dear to you? We all have, right? I sure have my own share of lost. In this blog post, I’ll share three steps I’m using to mourn effectively and to move forward in life and in business.
While losing a loved one, a pet or something valuable happens every day, yet we find it difficult deal with. Why is that? Let’s read on!
In August 2017, we said goodbye to grandma Izin. I can tell you this… it’s so hard to say goodbye, especially when the person has affected everything in life.
My Grandma is the pillar of my faith in God, myself and others. She did not just believe, she lived her faith. She inspired and showed us how to love God, love ourselves and love others. I am grateful to Grandma Izin for loving me and left me the eternal riches of true faith. She is now in Heaven praying for us.
The key to bounce back from grief and move forward is to develop a growth MINDSET and take actions.
As I mourn the loss of my grandma, I took the following steps:
2. Review Dr. Kübler-Ross’ Stages of Grief
3. Connect with my loved ones
Prayer is an important part of building your spiritual, psychological and physical health. It’s a great tool to develop healthier relationship with God and to cope with life problems. Prayer is an earnest request for help or an expression of thanks addressed to God.
According to Dr. Clay Routledge, prayer offers many scientifically proven benefits. Researchers found that people who prayed for others and themselves were less vulnerable to the negative physical health effects associated with stressors such as financial, health and other problems in life. Click HERE to discover more about “THE POWER OF PRAYER”
5 STAGES OF GRIEF
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross was a prominent Swiss-born psychiatrist who pioneered studies on death, dying, grief and bereavement. Her stages of grief are outlined in her book, “On Death and Dying” and they are as follow:
Denial is a defense mechanism that the individual employs to cope with a loss. It’s a form of emotional checkout, avoidance or refusing to accept the reality of a loss, whether the loss is the death of a loved one or finding out of bad news, such as learning that someone has a serious illness like stage four cancer.
Anger typically occurs after denial in the grief phase, although it may occur at any point during the grieving process. Anger may be directed inward or outward. It can be directed at God or at others, a specific person or society in general. In this phase, emotions that may have been suppressed for quite some time tend to erupt, and the frustration at having little or no control over circumstances may be directed toward anyone who gets in the way.
Bargaining is a form of desperation in which the individual tries to make deals to regain what he or she has lost. Some people may bargain with God or to themselves to try to reclaim a loved one or reclaim balance in life. In this stage, people try their best to cling to the things they have lost, even though they know the things will never come back.
When an individual accepts the inevitable and realizes that his or her efforts to avoidance the reality of loss, a period of depression generally sets in. In this stage, people begins to realize that they have no control in preventing the reality of life. They may isolate themselves, turn away from loved ones, believing that there is no one who can understand what they are going through, or no one who can help them to feel better. People may experience signs such as lack of sleep, sleeping too much, lack of appetize, eating too much, numbness. They may cry frequently or appear hopeless.
Acceptance occurs when people learn to deal with the reality of the situation. They have passed through some or all the previous phases of grief, and they now move on to this final phase where they can act toward closure with what happened or with what is going to happen. They are more receptive to change what they can and accept what they cannot change.
CONNECT WITH OTHERS
You know the basics of health 101… Eat your veggies, go to the gym and get proper rest. But Did you know that social connection is as important?
According to Dr. According to Dr. Emma M. Seppälä, Social connection improves physical health and psychological well-being. One telling study showed that lack of social connection is a greater detriment to health than obesity, smoking and high blood pressure. On the flip side, strong social connection leads to a 50% increased chance of longevity. Social connection strengthens our immune system (research by Steve Cole shows that genes impacted by social connection also code for immune function and inflammation), helps us recover from disease faster, and may even lengthen our life.
Grieving the loss of a loved one or something close to our hearts is very difficult. We were not taught how to manage grief and most other realities of life. That is why I wrote this blog post to encourage you. I invite you to embrace your grieving process as quickly as possible in other to move forward in your life or in your business.
When you grieve, it’s important to seek prayer, get help to go through the stages of grief and connect with your social groups. These steps will help you heal quicker and move forward sooner.
I know that it’s easier to disconnect, however, it’s not the best approach. Research has shown that connection is very important to our spiritual, psychological and physical well-being. I encourage you to connect with your loved ones such as family, friends, co-workers and church members. If your social group is limited, get a professional counselor or coach who can help you bounce back from grief and move forward.
The key to bounce back from grief and move forward is to develop a growth MINDSET and take actions toward your goals. Read this post as often as needed and follow the recommendations outlined in the post!
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